Last night I went to party with a couple of my friends and everyone kinda went their separate ways cos of how crowded it was.
At one point, I was walking with two friends and we saw this guy lying on the floor. Dead drunk. I stopped to check if he was okay. And I was startled bcos so many people passed by but nobody actually bothered.
I mean obviously it's nothing new, but I thought to myself what if it was me lying there? How would I feel if I could barely move and nobody bothered?
I shook him to check if he could at least talk. He said "hey are you Naomi" my friends instantly pulled me away and asked me to just leave him alone. He then told me he needs to go home and asked if I could get him back. I said I can't get him home but I can get him a cab. My friends then advised that I leave him for the second time. I said no, let me help him.
I reached out for his phone and asked if he could guide me to one of his friends' number (perhaps a friend he came with) - I called and she didn't pick up. She did eventually and one of my friends gave her a thrashing and questioned what kind of friend she was to leave her friend out there while she had the time of her life.
Somehow I got to his dad and told him about the situation - his dad then agreed to come over to pick him up (he was coming from CCK) I gave him my word that I'll stay by till he comes.
After lots of waiting, causing quite a scene (bcos everyone who walked by thought I had something to do with the poor stranger who was lying against me) and lots of "just leave him la" I got angrier and angrier as it got later bcos she wasn't out yet and more people started coming by - not only were most of them not helping, they were just mocking, laughing and making useless remarks.
Nearly 30mins later, his friend was finally out and not to mention, while i was taking care of him she was mostly indulging in conversations with the people crowding around us. Of course, it was only "normal" if I left when she came but I didn't trust that she would take care of him.
What made me snap at one point was when this random dude told her to "eh just go la why care about him" and I felt like she wanted to - at that moment I couldn't care less of what he was gonna think of me but I responded "What if it was you lying here, feeling helpless? Don't you have the slightest bit of compassion?"
They all got shocked and slowly everyone dispersed.
Let's skip to the part when his dad came and got him. That was when I finally felt safe to leave after about an hour of waiting.
I left feeling perplexed. Why's everyone so selfish today? I know it's no big deal and it's totally normal on a regular party night... right?
It just saddens me cos that was when I concluded from the situation that most people are just terribly curious about things that happen and not because they care.
In this new generation we are dealing with, everyone is developing a more "me first" complex. The questions everyone starts off with will be "how does this make me look?" "How will doing this make me feel?"
And it will get worse as the years go by. It's upsetting. But we can either choose to ignore it and let the human race depreciate, or we could look at the problem and say maybe we can do this in whatever ways we can to make things happen.
I'm going with the second option for sure. What about yourself?
Let's start caring for not only ourselves or the people we love, but random people who could use a helping hand as well.