BGR could easily top the charts for being one of the social ills which is prevalent in this society today.
I've been in and out of several "flirtationships" ((n) – A social situation that comprises more than a friendship, but less than a relationship), but I'd only consider two of them a legit relationship.
I'm really sensitive and sentimental. I'm probably one of the overly-attached girlfriends when I'm in love, and I take really long to forget someone even when it's over.
Sometimes, you can date so many other people only to realise no one's as good as that special someone.
And when I mean good, I don't just mean whether they fit your standards or not. They can be a million times better, but it's funny how you still choose to love that one person.
Love isn't blind. You actually see those flaws, but you choose to accept them.
Love isn't about changing someone. I've been the girl who's always hoping to change the guy I'm with, but if I'm trying to change him, doesn't that prove something?
That maybe I don't really like him for who he really is after all.
Sometimes, you think you love someone only to realise that the only thing you enjoyed was that ambiguous relationship you had with the other party.
That phase is the sweetest.
Anyway, I hate the process of getting out of a relationship, I hate crying myself to sleep for nights, I hate becoming more insecure than before, I hate it when I lose my friends just for someone and when he leaves, I'm left alone. I hate the pain of moving on, I hate watching the other party move on, I hate wishing he's still not over me, I hate wishing there's a chance of us getting back together.
I hate the whole process of learning to trust someone new, I hate how guarded I am towards everyone after every breakup. I really hate going through that sh*t.
So after having to go through it so many times, I learnt to never get into relationships hastily.
I definitely not a relationship expert, nor do I claim to know everything about love, but one thing for sure... No matter how many dates I had previously, I've never ever get into a relationship UNTIL I'm really certain of how I feel towards the other party.
The word "love" is badly abused by so many of us - I never understood how "I REALLY LOVE YOU" can come from a person who only gotta know you for a couple of days.
Of course, there is chance that people might indeed fall in love with each other within the first few times of meeting up, but that's not what I'm talking about.
To have a stable relationship, I personally feel that you've to build a really strong foundation. (Unless you're not looking to settle down.) Remember those days where it's always that same old process - From strangers, to acquaintances, to friends and then to lovers?
Seems like that's no longer the case. Everything escalates so quickly these days. Couple of chats, meet-ups... *BAM* steady, *BAM BAM* broken off.
I always thought relationships were special, but what's it like now?
Relationships these days are so much harder because of how conversations are made through texting, feelings are expressed through our updates on social platforms...
And due to how exposed all of us are to the Western culture, we tend to forget our values. I really hate how conservative we can be at times, but there's only so much you can do. As much as you'd love to walk out of the house without a bra, YOU CAN'T.
As much as you'd like to share about your sex-life with your parents, hoping they'd be open about you, YOU CAN'T.
As much as you yearn to make out in public, YOU CAN'T.
I've noticed how influenced my peers are towards all the Western values, talking about sex and whatsoever openly on Twitter... I'm definitely not trying to say that it's a bad thing. In fact, it's rather unpreventable in this society we are in today.
However, I'm just so upset to see how majority of the relationships now could only last for weeks.
You see them whining about how much they love and want someone for a week... Next thing you know? They are with someone new.
It's sad to see how people can get into a relationship, claim to love the other party, and still cheat. Stop being selfish and greedy. You can't have the best of both worlds, call it off if you can't stay faithful.
What I've to say to the girls,
Love isn't sex
Girls, respect his privacy. Yeah, if he has nothing to hide from his phone he shouldn't be afraid, but that doesn't give you the rights to check it without his permission.
Guys, respect her body. If she feels like she's not rear, don't force her. As contradicting as we can be at time, when we say "NO," to these kinda things…. We mean business.
Don't offer your body to the guy you love, if he only offers his love to have your body.