You're beautiful

I'm aware I've already done a short video on my Youtube channel previously, which I spoke about my insecurities, but I guess it's been some time since I wrote a post on something more personal, and I just wanted to share with you guys how I deal with these problems I face.

My biggest insecurity. 

I titled this "insecurity," not because I only feel insecure about one thing. It's just that if I were to list down all my insecurities, this post could probably beat the thickness of an encyclopedia easily. Haha, so lets not get started on that.

A handful of you might already be cursing and swearing because you feel that there's nothing I should feel insecure about. Not that I agree with that, but I guess everyone, despite how people around them may think that they are perfect, they'd never discover their own strengths at times.

All we usually focus on are our flaws, because no one else sees them as often as we do.

So as long as you're human, I guess there would be something you ought to feel discontented about about yourself? 

Plenty of you would've already realise that I'm actually rather petite in size, and I'm not sure how many of you tall people out there wish to be shorter, but I've never fancied my height.

Why? 

I mean, you usually hear people criticising short people, but I believe we hardly ever see someone mocking a tall person for being too tall.

I'm not intending on listing out the pros and cons of being tall and short, and make a comparison between both, neither am I planning on trying to speak from a tall person's POV.

I just wanna tell you how I feel, and how I've been feeling over the years.

I never really had an issue with my height in primary school. I mean after all, that was the period when everyone was probably around my height. Lol.

However, it all started to hit me when I got into Secondary school.

Over the years, I've always been hoping that I'll grow an inch or two, but I felt like I never did since sec 3, when I was 15. Sobs :(

There was once, that year... A guy actually ditched me for my height. It sounds really shallow, now that I reminisce and have that whole situation running through my mind again, but back then that wasn't how I see it. 

What a poignant reminder of how superficial people are these days...

I was, undeniably devastated, and I also felt really lousy about myself. It took me some time to get over it, but it wasn't long before it started to affect me all over again.

Last year was the year where I started hiding in my shell, because of all the nasty remarks I had to face online. Besides dwelling on an insult for the entire day, it had such a big impact on me that there was one point of time where I just wanted to isolate myself from everyone.

I felt really self conscious about my body, especially my height.

It was bothering me so bad that I just didn't want to put on flats despite wherever I was going to.

Also, I hated how everyone treats me like a 3 year old just because of how petite I was. How people think it's fine to continue teasing me, just because I kept mum each time they did. 

Compared to all my friends in the Blogsphere, I always felt really tiny. Not just physically, but my visibility as well. I felt pathetic.

Most of them are models, and even if they aren't exactly supermodel-kinda-tall, they are usually slim enough to compensate for their height.

I've turned down a handful of photoshoot opportunities because I was always afraid someone might compare me to some other model that's way taller. 

And that's probably one of the worst feeling ever, because I really love modelling. 

There was once I even resorted to starving myself because I thought that, "Hmm, maybe if I'm skinny, I won't look like a stubby teapot."

It hurts even though I act like I'm cool with it. I'm strong enough to put up a fake smile, but weak enough to be breaking down inside.

And it certainly doesn't feel good when people much younger than you, are way taller than you. Or when you're already in a pair of 5-inch heels, but you're still way shorter than anyone around you.

My height has always been a hinderance to me in many ways. It has never failed to bring down my self esteem despite the number of people telling me it's fine.

I may have a million things about myself that I'm unsatisfied with, but if there's one thing I could change, it'd definitely be my height.

Well, but that's not the point of this post anyway. The main purpose of sharing with you guys this is solely to bring a message across - As cliche as it sounds, everyone's flawed and nobody's perfect. It might be a cheesy, old phrase, but it is the truth.

And the good news is, this has all become a part of the past now, I've learnt to accept myself for who I am, and even if I think about it once in awhile, it's no longer something that I'd spend hours dwelling on anymore. 

Well, I've met so many people who goes like "Wow, you're really short in real life," it comes to a point where I just can't be bothered anymore.

If I can't change the way I am, why not change the way I think? Right?

I can't do anything about my height, and as much as I love looking at pretty heels and feeling taller sometimes, I still love being in sneakers, because nothing feels better than being yourself.

In fact, I often feel encouraged by friends around me who constantly remind me of how I'm "beautiful" just the way I am, and that's definitely how any girl or anyone should feel.

All I have to say now is... I'm pretty comfortable with my own height, and if you aren't? Too bad!

How do you overcome your insecurity(s) based?

I suppose the first, and most essential step to overcoming an insecurity is to acknowledge the existence of it and embrace it.

Instead of finding all sorts of methods to hide this flaw, why not just be proud to be imperfect?

I know it's easier said than done, but I guess it's always a good thing to make the first move, and to prevail on. It might be difficult, but nothing good comes easy right?

What's the cons of showing your flaw? Being mocked? 

Well, if you look at it from another angle, chances are, people would probably stop being a prick if you actually show them that you're aware of this flaw, and can't be bothered with it instead of hiding it deliberately.

People will eventually lose the thrill of making fun of you, if you don't respond to them.

In other words? Learn how to joke with your insecurities, that way... You have the upper-hand!

Next, you need to accept that everyone has their own flaws, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Look around you. You might be captivated by someone's beauty and wishing you had those looks too, but has it ever come across to you that someone else might be envious of something else that you have?

At the end of the day, we all know that physical appearance is what captures one's attention first, but a good personality is what makes a person stay.

Haha, you get my drift.

Lastly, it's always important to have a positive mindset towards everything. If you feel that something's making you unhappy, why not do something else to make you feel happy? That plays a part in helping to boost your self confidence as well; doing something well.

Personally, picking up DJ-ing at SOM, dancing, and longboarding are ways to help me feel good about myself.

So why not find some time and pick up something you like doing, and perhaps discover a strength of yours that you might have never noticed?

It's never a waste of time to do something you love. After all, you get to learn something new through the process of it.

Let me help you.

If you feel lost with no directions at this moment; no idea what you should do, nor what you like doing... No worries! Let me help you.

So I've recently found out about this really interesting page (click here) that allows you to create your personal avatar!

I guess it's pretty true, and rather accurate.

Best part? It makes me feel good about myself after taking the test. Try it out too!

Complete the scale and remember to take all 4 tests, otherwise your avatar would be incomplete!

How will you be rewarded? You might be one of the FIFTEEN people I'd be looking for, to attend a free Girls Style Dance with me at SOM. ;)

Simply create your own avatar (like what I did above), and share them with me and five other friends of yours on your Instagram or Facebook. Remember to tag me, hashtag #LIVEITUP and leave your contact details for me! I'll be picking FIFTEEN winners by 30 Oct so good luck!!!

I know not everyone would be able to relate and use the advices I've shared, however I still sincerely wish that I managed to help at least a few of you out there!

Just like to remind you that you're not alone, and I'm with you. Not physically, but virtually hahaha. :p

Also, I've actually worked with Xavier on a video few months back, and it's finally out!

It pretty much sums up everything I've said here in this post, and I'm sure you'd enjoy it, so do check it out (here)!

Here are some BTS as well

Alright, will be back for more soon! ;)

Romantic Curls Hair Tutorial (Feat sunsilk part II)

Have been receiving tons of requests on how I create the curls I've in the picture above, after I posted it up on my Instagram...

So as promised in my last post, I'd be showing you all how I've made use of my two hairstyling tools from the Sunsilk Hairstyling Tool Kit! (Do check my last post up if you don't have a single clue on what I'm talking about.)

Remove its "cap," and plug it in to a socket to heat it up! 

The red light will lit up to indicate that the curler's switched on. 

You just have to wait for about a 2-3mins before application!

Just me and my silly face.

While waiting, don't forget to quickly apply some Hair tonic to your roots to strengthen and nourish them - anchoring your hair firmly in place. This helps to tackle your hair fall problem!

I mean you wouldn't want your hair falling all over the ground while you're brushing and curling your hair, right? 

(I've already done my hair in the morning, and I'm just touching up the loose curls before I head out again.)

1) Grab a small section of your hair that you'd like to curl, brush it through to untangle any knots.

2) Clip that section of your hair midway, 

Secure your hair in place.

3) Clip it all the way down to the end, and twirl it back up, and hold it for about 3-5 seconds. (Note: Remember to always curl away from your face.)

Voilà, a nice soft curl!

Continue this entire process for the rest of your hair!

I'm really amazed by what does this small curler can actually do to my hair, I guess I underestimated it. Never had a good experience from all the previous hair curlers I've tried in the past, so I'm really happy with this.

Time to straighten my fringe!

Test to see if its heated up! (I love how it's not like steaming hot, yet hot enough to do its job!)

Just like any ordinary straightener, clip your fringe and curl it inwards at the end. That gives your bangs that extra "bounce."

Once your done, just put it in place! 

If you're looking for a sweet finish, try tying half your hair up!

The Sunsilk Gift pack also provides you with a pack of all purpose ribbon.

Measure and cut the ideal length that you want.

Grab about 1/4 of your hair, from ear to ear.

And tie it up with your ribbon!

Nothing too fanciful, but like I always mention, simplicity is the key to beauty!

Anyway, if you don't already know... I'm actually taking part in the Sunsilk Hairstyling challenge! You can also be a part of it by click (here) and walk away with the Exclusive Sunsilk Hair Styling Tool Kit with the new Sunsilk Hair Fall Solution set + hair styling tools worth SGD $150!

Top 3 winners are entitled to a Girls’ Night Out package worth SGD$1500 + 2 friends that includes: 1. One night stay at W Hotel Singapore 

2. Spa treatment at AWAY Spa 

3. Dinner at Skirt

However, if you're not keen in taking part, you can also purchase the Sunsilk gift pack consisting of a free hair curler at 16.90 in stores now!

I'd still encourage you to take part in the challenge. After all, you just need a few minutes to complete a hairdo. You can read up more on the review of the products on my previous post (here)

Best of luck! ;)

Simple Hair Tutorial Feat. Sunsilk

Sometimes, it can be such a hassle to style your hair when you've to face the sight of your hair falling all over the place. Can anyone empathise with this pain that I've been going through? :'(

Yeah, perhaps it's due to the excessive amount of dye I previously applied to my hair, and maybe the number of cup noodles I usually have a week is one of the factors which leads to hair fall.

I swear I used to have much thicker hair, and hair fall was never something I had to deal with - The strands of hair my brush collects is even more than the air it interacts with. Wait, did that even make any sense? Ahhh, you get my drift.

So anyway if you've yet to watch my hair tutorial on how to create a hair-bun which requires less than 30secs, do click on the play button!

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How does this bun stand out from the regular ones? To some, it might be something that's old-fashioned and a rather old trick, but it's never too late to bring back an old trend right?!

I did it using a pencil, and I was taught how to do this when I was around the age of 7 by my dad's old colleague. (My memory's not that bad after all right? Lol)

Haven't been using this hairdo for ages, but I had a bad hair day the other time in school, and DANG the only day when I've forgotten to bring my hairband just had to be the day I needed it most.

Hence, the thought of using a pencil instead, came to my mind!!!

AND because some of my friends were pretty amazed by it, I thought I'd do a hair tutorial, since it only takes less than a minute to get it done.

Best part? The one and only thing you need is a pencil. Saves you that extra trip you've to make to find your pins and clips, and the extra effort to tie it with a hairband. 

So I'm gonna elaborate more in this post on how to get it perfectly secured throughout the entire day!

Introducing the new line of hair styling products and tools by Sunsilk!

As mentioned in the video, remember to wash and condition your hair with their Hair Fall Solution Shampoo before you start off anything!

I've been using Sunsilk products for nearly half of my life, and I was glad to know that they came up with this new line of hair fall solution products!

Have been trying it out for awhile now, and I've actually witnessed the drastic improvement in my hair condition. Of course, it didn't miraculously stopped all my hair from falling, (I'll probably recommend it to all the elderlies if that's the case) but I probably only have one or two strands falling of now and then?

And let's not talk about how we tug and mess around with our hair, that kinda hair fall is inevitable.

I'm talking about how you'd normally comb your hair with a brush, during a shower or even when you let your hair down normally.

So the Sunsilk Hair Fall Solution range is now boosted with a Root Lock Mineral Complex which uses an infusion of minerals to actively strengthen roots and reduce
hair fall by up to 10 times.

You've to use the shampoo regularly to see full benefits of advanced root-nourishing minerals. Massage through hair and scalp, and rinse. It's only $6.70 for 320ml, $10.60 for 650ml!

As for the conditioner, its root-nourishing minerals smooth and strengthen hair lengths, protecting your hair against breakage. Apply to lengths and rinse. Costs the same, $6.70 for 320ml. :)

What's $6.70 or $13.40 to have thick, luxurious hair? ;)

BUT in order to really see an improvement...

You must not forget their Hair Tonic! It's their latest product, and it's really easy to use.

Just apply it to your wet hair, directly on your roots once you're done shampooing, and massage it for about 2-3 minutes. 

Yay! Say hi to the freedom to style with stronger roots. You'd be able to see a huge difference if you could diligently apply it daily, as your roots will become strengthened, which would eventually reduce hair fall. This is slightly more costly, but still affordable at $12.90 for 80ml!

This is definitely the key product for the prevention of hair fall, I promise you'd see a difference.

Going through a hair test after applying it for 1.5 weeks...

No strands of hair!

Hehe, kiss goodbye to hair fall, and time to play around with all my fav hairstyles!

Love how pretty this kit is. I mean, how often would people invest in such a beautiful bag for a kit? W

Thank you Sunsilk for my stronger, healthier, and smoother hair over the years! :) You've never failed to disappoint me.

With the hair tonic, twist, tug, pull, wrap, and play to your heart’s content using the collection’s star product ;)

Dilemma? How to use them? Stay tuned for my next post for another cool hairdo ;)

Btw, if you didn't catch it on my vid, you can take part in the Sunsilk hair styling challenge as well, just by uploading a picture of yourself in a sock bun on the Sunsilk Freestyle Challenge tab - Click on their app (here) for more details :)

Good luck!